What I wish I’d known on my first Mother’s Day

GRAND RAPIDS, Mich.  (WOTV)- If you’ve welcomed a little bundle of joy over the last 12 month this will be your first Mother’s Day.  A day to be showered with love and appreciation from your kids, significant other and those around you.   It’s your day!  You rock and you work your tail off to be a wonderful mom 365 days a year.  This Mother’s Day it’s all about you.

I became a mom three years ago and looking back at my few short years as a mother I’d give myself and other new moms the same advice for a happy day.

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Don’t overthink it.

This day is special becuase you are special.  As women we overthink EVERY little thing and we want it all to be perfect.  Chances are Mother’s Day won’t be the picture perfect day you’ve envisioned in your mind.  The baby will spit up all over your beautiful new shirt, or the server at brunch may forget your much needed mimosa.  Your baby will cry through church or need a nap when it’s time to celebrate your special day.  Regardless of the snags that happen along the way just look at that precious little face and know you’re loved, needed and appreciated.

It’s all about you. (not really)

This was something I had never thought of until I became a mom.  You’re a mom now, which means you get to be on the recieving end of “Mother’s Day”.  But you’ll soon realize it’s not all about you.  It’s also about your mom, your mother-in-law,  your step-mom, AND you.  I remember having a lot of guilt associated with this.  I kept thinking, why do I have to plan a special day for everyone else when it’s MY day?  That may sound self-centered but I think every new mom has a twinge of that feeling that they never verbalize.  You are hoping to be pampered but since for years you’ve been spoilng your own mom and in more recent years likely your mother-in-law how do you make everyone feel special?   It’s a hard line to walk.  For my first Mother’s Day we rounded up everyone and went to brunch.  It was nice and will perhaps become a tradition.  Hang in there and be a good sport.

Don’t downplay it.

As women, and as “planners” we have the tendancy to downplay things for ourselves.  So when your signifcant other says, “What do you want to do for Mother’s Day?” tell them!  Men especially aren’t mind readers and they are very literal.  If you say, “oh it doesn’t matter”, or “we don’t need to do anything special” then most likely that’s what you are going to get.  If you want to go to your favorite restaraunt suggest it.  If you want to have a day alone to get a pedicure, book it and suggest a gift certificate.  If you want to have a fun family day with the kids ask him to plan a zoo day or a picnic in the park.  A little direction will go a long way.

Plan to relax.

Yup that’s right.  Schedule in some time for R&R.  If you don’t plan to relax chances are you won’t.  You’ll end up getting groceries, scrubbing the floors or doing laundry.  Plan ahead and get your regular weekend chores done on Saturday so you can actually squeeze in some “me time” on Mother’s Day.  You deserve it!

Do something sentimental.

Find time to reflect this Mother’s Day and take a stroll down memory lane.  Look back through those pregnancy photos and early pictures of your newborn.  Chat with your significant other about those first emotions when you became new parents and laugh about how you thought you were “tired” or “busy” before the baby. Of course find some quiet time to bond with your baby or children and just enjoy the journey of being a mom.

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